Sam and Janet
Sam and Janet Who?
Sam and Janet Evening
You may see a stranger………….
Al moved in 3 years ago. He is a shitty roommate and word has it that he won’t leave and can’t be evicted. It’s harder on Sammy than it is on me ……………but its plenty hard on me as well.
Al is a trickster. He puts your dishes, pots and pans in strange places. He puts Sammy’s pants on backwards and his shoes on the wrong feet. Al took Sam’s drivers license away.
We first noticed that Al had taken up residence when Sam was trying to fix up a house in Salt Lake City. Sam was a exacting carpenter, slow but a perfectionist. He could build, roof, tile, anything. One day I noticed he was trying to lift the entire house with a chain to meet a board in a door jam. I thought hmmmm???”something is very wrong”. Our son Eddy noticed it too.
Eddy and I sat with Sam as Dr. Z asked him many simple questions. That old joker Al, He made it so Sam couldn’t even draw a damn clock face. A month later DR Z confirmed that Al was here to stay and said that we should get some help. Boy howdy Dr Z…. You were spot on.
The first thing we did, while Sam was able, is buy an RV and circumvent Nevada. The postings below are from that amazing odyssey. Three years later I am at home wondering if I can stay here.Yesterday I attended a “ Living with Al “ support group. Turns out that Al gets around. He’s got Lillian’s husband in a skilled nursing facility, Alex’s mom in assisted living. Dutch and I were the only ones there that have our partners at home. Dutch and I had the same inability to make eye contact.
My job today (after I procrastinate to write this blog) is to contact yet another Elder lawyer.
I need to figure out the financial part of selling the house in Salt Lake City that Sam was working on. Long term care is expensive. The family cabin, the SLC house and a portion of the house we live in will pay for that care unless I figure something out. Even if I do,I will have to out live Sammy by 2 years in order to keep my assets.
On that cheery note, I will end my first blog post in many years. It helps to write about it. Please don’t feel the need to read it or tell me its too depressing. I have that Information down pat. Its enough for me to just take the time to document the path of this crazy new roommate.
On the bright side, I retired in time to be able to a full time caregiver. Sammy sleeps through the night . Right now he is sitting on our lovely deck listening to a world class wren solo and watching humming birds take a bath. I will be too…… as soon as I make an appointment with the lawyer.